Defeat Your Sense of Fear with 'I can do this'

One of the biggest fears people have ever had is their fear of failure because it is closely related to the fear of being criticized and rejected. Successful people have learned to overcome their fear of failure, while the sense of fear paralyzes unsuccessful people. The main problem is that most people self-limit themselves. Most people don't achieve a mere fraction of what they are able to do because they are afraid of being a failure.

Can you think of all the things you could do right now, if you didn't have any fears? Would you start singing and dancing, joyfully watching the sunrise? How often do you let fear stop you, even before you have actually started? This can happen even when planning small things, such as a weekend vacation or choosing a picnic spot in the park.

How many times did you end up staying at home just because you think it's going to rain? Or because you didn't have enough food for the picnic, no decent blanket and so on. And it finally ends up being a great day outside, you come across that old blanket you always used for picnics and you could have picked up a pizza on your way to the park! What about a major event in your life. Is fear stopping you from confronting your abusive boss, reporting him to the manager of the company, quitting and finding another job?

Failure is closely related to behavior, outcomes, and results and is not a personality trait. Even if your actions may not bring you the results you expected, it doesn't mean you are a failure. Just because you made a mistake or took a less inspired decision, doesn't mean that you are a failure. Think of failure as a learning experience and constantly ask yourself what did you learn from that experience that will help you in the future? How can you use your experience to improve yourself or make the best out of a situation?

Just remember that there are times when fear will grab hold of you. Whether you let it to feel at home and settle in is up to you. But if you can fight it, you will have a life that is rich with experiences beyond your wildest dreams. The key to success is learning from your past mistakes so you won't repeat them in the future. Even though we can all make mistakes, must not let the fear of failure to cripple us and block our way.