Parenting and Heroes - Become Your Child's Hero

Name several persons that have had a positive affect on your life? What are some of the qualities that you admired in each? Examples would be; commitment to work, family and or community, loyalty, trustworthiness, loving, friendly, caring, etc. Which of these qualities do you feel you would want to impart upon your child or children?

Now back to our first question. Are you your child's hero? The answer is yes. Now are you living a life that allows your children to see you as a hero or are you living in a way that will eventually cause you to loose that hero status? Tough question, but honesty really counts here.

Your children look up to you for everything from guidance to love and a feeling of security. They need to be able to trust that they can go to you for every problem they encounter. They need to be able to go to you to share all their triumphs, their worries, their concerns, their dreams, their jokes, and their everyday happenings. Are you living up to these needs? It's a tough challenge in today's world. But it is doable!

I know that I didn't live up to the standards that I should have. The reason being, I didn't know how to or that I needed to. If I could do it all over again, I would do many things differently. Below is a list. I hope that you will benefit from this short list. I hope that you will more easily live up to that hero status that your children deserve, from reading this article. Not only will your children benefit and have a happier life, but you will also.

I can't do it over again, but you can do it better now because you now know.
If you are asking yourself, can I do it? The answer is, unequivocally yes!

They are your children and they love you as you love them. Show it, tell it, live it. Regularly and repeatedly tell them, I Love You. Show them with your actions that you love them. Provide them with a loving home.

Make sure you are living in that hero status, they are naturally proud of you as their parent, and they will allow you to make some mistakes.

Be involved in their lives, schoolwork, sports, and everything else.

Adopt some of the characteristics that you listed as the traits from your hero's.

Tell them when they do something right, and that you are proud of them

Tell them when they are wrong in a gentle and loving manner.

Don't be afraid of them. Be their parent, not their friend.

Share the special things in life with them, even if it's something simple.

It doesn't take much to be a hero in your child's eyes, however it is important. Yes this is the stuff that will make or break your child's relationship with you.

Work on the implementing your hero's characteristics into your own life, you may find you loved your hero for the simple things. It may sound difficult but you can do it!