You have the power to create magic.
Human beings (ALL HUMAN BEINGS) are unique from other "creatures", as we have the ability to radically change our life by changing our personal story.
While we all have the capacity to re-author our most dominant stories, not everyone believes they have this capacity.
Some people are addicted to their story.
Some people are addicted to their chronic negative emotions.
Some people are addicted to whining and complaining.
Consider the following:
Your current life circumstances are a reflection of your core beliefs about yourselves, others and the world around you.
Who you are is a manifestation of your most dominant thoughts. Put another way, "As you think, so shall you be". What you think, you become.
Your moment-to-moment words, thoughts, feelings and behaviors are a result of your most dominant personal stories.
You ultimately can't see what you can't imagine.
You ultimately can't create what is incompatible with your most dominant stories.
This is why we are often creatures of habit, continually re-creating the circumstances of our life.
Albert Einstein once wrote "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them". In other words, in order to change, we need to change our beliefs.
So how do we do this?
Thanks for asking.
You need to first get clear about where you currently are in your life. Don't downplay or minimize. This is not a time to be delusional.
Second. Get clear about where you want to be.
Third. Get clear about the thoughts, images and behaviors that you would need to have to create your most desired outcomes.
Fourth. Align your daily thoughts, images, and behaviors with your desired outcomes.
Here are some quick and simple daily activities that can help shape and reinforce the necessary consciousness to create your ideal life:
VISUALIZATION. Your behavior will match your image of yourself. Spend a few moments each morning clearly imaging your desired outcomes. The length of time is less important than having your images specific and vivid.
DECLARATIONS. Write several declarative statements that are worded in the positive, present tense, are highly specific, and inspiring. State them out loud each day with TOTAL BEHAVIOR ? with complete alignment of your behavior, thinking, emotion and physiology.
CREATE A DREAMBOARD. Include words, phrases, pictures and anything that symbolizes your desired outcomes. Look at your dreamboard daily.
WRITE A PURPOSE STATEMENT. Similar to your declarations, use emotionally charged words, state it in the positive, keep it brief.
Write it as if you have already created and are living out your purpose. Keep this statement in your planner and review it daily.
KEEP A PURPOSE JOURNAL. Each morning write down at least THREE things you WILL do that day in the service of your purpose. Identify specific action steps. This is not a time to be mushy. Be precise. Think of these as your DAILY MARCHING ORDERS. Make a nightly entry, identifying what you did or accomplished each day that was in the service of your purpose.
MANAGE YOUR SELF-TALK. Smash the ANTS in Your life ? Automatic Negative Thoughts. Learn to notice, catch and interrupt unproductive and limiting patterns of thinking.
USE LANGUAGE OF INTENTION. Avoid destructive language like can?t, I?ll try, I have to?
ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED. Ask and you shall receive ? unless you don?t. Keep in mind, if you don?t get what you ask for you are no worse off.
TEACH YOUR PURPOSE. Research is clear that teaching something helps us understand it at a greater level. A principle used in medical residency training ? learn one, do one, teach one.
One other important aspect of creating and sustaining the necessary consciousness to help you achieve your dreams is to surround yourself with the right people.
You won't achieve greatness hanging out with complainers.
Does this all sound like too much work?
Only you can answer that.
However, like any habits and rituals, once they are created they become automatic and effortless.
I don't quote shampoo commercials much, but as I heard pronounced in one shampoo commercial -
"Your worth it!"
You really are.
Your life is.
Your dreams and goals are.
Your legacy is.
Have a great holiday season!
Your worth it!
Power up to create some magic in the upcoming year.
About Mike Davison
Mike Davison is a Clinical Psychologist and a Life Design Coach. He has been a Professor in the doctoral program in Clinical Psychology in Chicago since 1996. His practice interests include individual psychotherapy, couples and family counseling, organizational consulting, and peak performance coaching.
Mike has professional publications in the areas of Cognitive Therapy, the treatment of depression, and brief therapy. He has also presented at numerous professional conferences on his approach to helping individuals create rapid change.
Mike works one-on-one with Robert Stuberg in the Masters Coaching Program and has become one of the most sought after coaches at Success.bz. His impeccable credentials combined with his common sense approach to life, set him apart as a high level coach to both individuals and organizations.
Mike's philosophy and approach to working with individuals can be described as collaborative and solution focused. He specializes in helping individuals identify and overcome limitations in their thinking, and has a knack of helping individuals find rapid solutions to long-standing challenges. As many of the newer schools of psychotherapy acknowledge, there is a strong connection between an individual's thinking, feeling and behavior. Therefore creating slight shifts in any of these areas can start the ball rolling to create profound change.
Mike lives in the Chicago area with his wife of 18 years, and their three children.
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