During a conversation with someone who wishes to move out of a lifetime of negative behaviors and beliefs, I realized as she spoke, that what it takes for her to feel better is for something outside of herself to improve or indicate a circumstance is getting better. Anyone even minimally familiar with the Law of Attraction is either shaking or nodding their head in understanding as they read this.
I mentioned this pattern to the woman and asked, "If everything starts as an idea in the mind, what might you do at an inner level to feel even a little better at any moment?" She responded that she had no idea. We talked a little more then ended the call with her agreeing to an assignment: She's to take a notebook and pen to a private place, write this question at the top of a page, and let the words flow through the pen.
With no inner guidance system or tool(s) in place, how could she possibly feel empowered to move past her negative belief system?
It's no wonder so many feel the frustration and fear they do if the measure of change or a reason to feel good can only come from matters and others outside of themselves. This pattern puts our ability to feel good in the hands of others and circumstances. It abandons personal power; and whether we're familiar with the term or not, it feels scary.
Personal power is what lifts us out of bed in the morning and moves us through our moments. It's what assists us to make choices about our lives that are appropriate for us. It's what enables us to recognize that specific challenges are usually finite, so we can take proper action to move past them and expand something about ourselves and our lives in a productive way.
We also spoke about how emotionally-charged thoughts attract more of the same to us and how the Universe fulfils our "order" without censorship. I shared with her that when I first heard this, it was uncomfortable; and that my next thought was, "What if it's true? If it's true, what am I going to do about it?" If you traveled this path as well, you know what you do: You become more conscientious about how and what you think and feel. You ask yourself what you need to do first at the inner level then the outer to aim for the desired outcome, which is to feel better. This is how we empower ourselves to respond to life rather than react to it.
Since this is the first time she's ever thought about what she might do at an inner level, I'm looking forward to hearing what came to her and what this experience felt like for her.
Some of you may have felt as I did when this realization came to me: As though I'd found my wings; and even though my "flying" skills were a bit shaky, the more I flew, the stronger I'd get.
About Joyce Shafer
Joyce Shafer is a Life Empowerment Coach dedicated to helping people feel, be, and live their true inner power. She's author of "Don't Want to be Your Guru" and other books/ebooks, and publishes a free weekly online newsletter that offers empowering articles and free downloads. See all that's offered by Joyce and on her site at http://stateofappreciation.weebly.com
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