What are you reading these days? If I had access to your house, would I find a stack of interesting books on your night stand?

Just for fun, I recently grabbed the books off of my wife's nightstand. She always seems to find great books to read so I selected four books from her stack to see what I might learn. What I like to do is try to pull one or two powerful ideas from every book that I read. So here is a glimpse into four books that you might want on your reading list.

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DARKNESS VISIBLE
A Memoir of Madness
by William Styron

This is a book I would have never selected myself. Yet sometimes the books that can be most helpful to us are the ones that we might never select ourselves. I tend to like the more positive books that focus on success and achievement rather than the books that delve into the pain that can be experienced in life. But sometimes the most powerful lessons in life come from painful experiences. And luckily, I found that this book does have a happy ending.

If you've ever sufferred from depression or know someone close that has, you know how debilitating it can be. This book is Pulitzer Prize Winning author William Styron's memoir about his descent into depression, and the triumph of recovery.

I knew that this was going to be interesting, when I saw this opening quote:

For the thing which
I greatly feared is come upon me,
and that which I was afraid of
Is come unto me.
I was not in safety, neither
had I rest, neither was I quiet;
yet trouble came.
- Job 3:25-26

I never thought of this quote in relation to depression but I can now see the connection.

Styron also uses some quotes from Dante's THE DIVINE COMEDY:

In the middle of the journey of our life
I found myself in a dark wood,
Where the straight way was lost.

You'll need to read about his experiences yourself, but this book will give you a glimpse into very serious depression. The good news is that Styron finally ends the book with his own translation to the final line of Dante's Inferno section of THE DIVINE COMEDY:

And so we came forth, and once again beheld the stars.

Here's my major idea from the book:

Don't ever think that a problem cannot be overcome even if you don't fully understand it, and especially if no one else understands it. There are always answers and hope. Or to say it another way, it's always too soon to give up.

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HEAVEN IS FOR REAL
A Little Boy's Astounding Story of His Trip to Heaven and Back
by Todd Burpo

If you wonder about what happens after death, you might find studying near death experiences to be something worthwhile. And if you study near death experiences, definitely don't miss this book. It's about a kid that goes to heaven while undergoing life-threatening surgery.

Here's my major idea from the book:

Near death experiences may be one of the best sources of information about what happens after death and what heaven is like. And since kids often have a closer connection with the spiritual realm, a kid that had a near death experience is really fascinating to study.

However, none of this seems to negate the fact that our current home on planet earth is caught up in the great war between good and evil which seems to put us in various battles where we must constantly choose how we are going to learn, because learning seems to be the name of the game.

The question is whether we will choose to learn through pleasure or pain, and even if the pain comes, will we choose to allow it to overcome us or allow it to transform us into something better?

Of course, not just believing but actually KNOWING that heaven is for real, can change your entire experience of life. Temporary pain is much more bearable if you remember that you are spiritual traveler heading to a place without such pain.

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FAILURE TO CONNECT
How Computers Affect Our Children's Minds — and What We Can Do About It
by Jane M. Healy, Ph.D.

I can certainly see why my wife is reading this one. We have a son who is almost a teenager now, and he is obsessed with computer and video games which which means he needs to be monitored.

Here's my major idea from this book as written by the author:

Just because children — particularly young ones — are performing tasks that look technologically sophisticated does not mean they are learning anything important.

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SWAY
The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior
by Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman

This book is over-the-top interesting. If you wonder about human nature and why people do what they do, don't miss this book.

The authors present some fascinating hidden psychological undercurrents that affect us all:

Loss Aversion - our tendency to go to great lengths to avoid possible losses.

Value Attribution - our inclination to imbue a person or thing with certain qualities based on initial perceived value.

Diagnosis Bias - our blindness to all evidence that contradicts our initial assessment of a person or situation.

They talk a lot about the challenges resulting from blind commitment to anything in life.

Here are a few major ideas from this book:

How to Conquer "Loss Aversion" …
"Having a long-term plan — and not casting it aside — is the key to dealing with our fear of loss."

Don't chase losses trying to unlose what you've already lost.

Also, don't get swayed by the hidden forces of commitment to a current course of action. Don't always try to cover your losses. Let some losses stand as what they really are in the overall grand scheme of things. Pretend you are starting from scratch based on where you are now without the memory of the past and then decide! (In business, some people talk about the mental game of pretending that you are going to move your business across the street, and then asking yourself what you would do differently. What's so powerful about this idea is that it can help you see things that you would do differently if you weren't so engrossed in your current challenges.)

How to Conquer "Value Attribution" …
Learn to discern the real or intrinsic value rather than someone else's opinion or the price society puts on something.

How to Conquer "Diagnosis Bias" …
Observe things the way they really are, not the way you initially saw them.

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Now that I've read some of my wife's books, I'd better get back to work on my own list. Here's a quote that may help give you some reading motivation:

You are the same today that you are going to be in five years from now except for two things: the people with whom you associate and the books you read.
- Charles Jones

Of course, I would add audio programs to Charlie's list because it can sometimes be really powerful to hear an author deliver his or her work with all of the emotion that goes along with the ideas being presented. I guess that's why I love listening to authors in addition to reading what they have to say. Sometimes that added emotion can make all of the difference in bringing an idea to life.

Have you ever thought about your life as a story? My quess is that you'll benefit greatly by thinking about the story of your life, and perhaps analyzing your performance thus far. By doing this, you'll probably be able to see for the first time what your life has really been about as well as where your life is heading. The truth of the matter is that all of us are actually writing, directing, and starring in our own story every day. We just don't tend to think of it that way. But here's an interesting question to consider: Would you enjoy going to the movies to see your story being acted out? Is it a good story that others would find interesting or, for that matter, would you find it interesting? Would you like how you are living your life if you were watching yourself on a movie screen?

One of my favorite pastimes is watching movies. I love a good movie. Nothing seems to have the power to carry me away like a great story brought to life on the big screen. But have you ever stopped to think that many of the stories we like the most are actually quite similiar in structure? In fact, you might be surprised to learn that most successful movies are based on stories that have only a few key elements. I've seen academic lists of 5 elements including Introduction, Rising Action, Climax, Falling Action, and Denouement from movie critics, and I also remember hearing someone use as many as 7 elements to analyze movies which I found more interesting because the elements used could more easily be connected with a person's life. For our purposes, I'm going to use a rough outline of those 7 elements I once heard discussed but I'm going to change the order a bit and relabel them in an effort to help you see how powerful this concept can be when it comes to living your best possible life.

Remember, your life really is a story, or series of stories. And maybe by detaching to see your life as a moviegoer would see it, you'll be able to see things you've never seen before. By viewing your life as a story, is it possible that you might discover how to make it better? How to get unstuck? How to solve your current problems? How to overcome whatever is that's standing between you and what it is you really want in life?

Most stories start with a person that has a desire or a wish or a goal that he or she wants to make real. We could simply label this element "The Desire."

Let's use the movie Mr. Holland's Opus to bring this whole concept to life. Richard Dreyfuss plays the leading role of Mr. Holland who is a man on a mission. He is a man who wants to write great music. He wants to be a world-class composer. But a story only begins with "The Desire". What makes a story start to take life and get us involved and engaged very quickly is the next element which we'll call "The Problem."

In the movie, Mr. Holland's Opus, we quickly see that Mr. Holland has a major problem which can simply be labeled the cares of life. He needs money so he can have the free time he wants to write his opus. He needs to figure out a way to make some money. We can probably all identify with that problem on many levels. So often we have a desire to do something but it costs money. If we don't have the money, we have a problem that needs to be solved.

But the movie also doesn't stop there. Part of what makes any story interesting is seeing how problems are going to be overcome and Mr. Holland doesn't disappoint us. He jumps right in to the next element of a story which we'll call "The Plan." Mr. Holland's plan is simple. He is going to teach music until he can finish his great opus or symphony and, in the process, become a world-renowned composer. It's an interesting desire with a plan to overcome his immediate problem. "The Desire" followed by "The Problem" with the introduction of "The Plan" that appears to have some merit. Isn't it also interesting that we could probably identify these same elements in our own life? What's your desire? What do you want to accomplish? What is your problem? What's holding you back or standing between you and your desire? And what is your plan? Do you have a strategy to work your way through the problem or problems facing you in life?

Of course, we know that there's always more to a great story than a desire, a problem, and a plan. If fact, if that's all there was to Mr. Holland's Opus, or any other movie we were watching, we'd probably be on the verge of being quite bored and getting ready to ask for our money back before we even finish our popcorn. But it's the next element of a great story that makes things really get interesting. Let's call this next part "The Opponents."

Great stories have many levels of opponents and this is certainly true in the movie Mr. Holland's Opus. And the job of the opponents is to do everything they can do to block "The Plan" and that's exactly what happens to Mr. Holland. While Mr. Holland is content to do the minimum requirements as a music teacher so he has plenty of free time to compose his opus, the principal of the school has another idea. She doesn't want Mr. Holland sneaking out early when there are students that need additional help. And we quickly see that Mr. Holland is confronted by a whole host of students that don't appear to have a lick of musical talent yet he is expected to teach them. Let's label all of these opponents, external opponents.

Getting back to your story, do you have any opponents? People that are holding you back? You might right now be making a list in your mind. What makes Mr. Holland's Opus so interesting is the fact that he doesn't just have one opponent but a number of opponents. I've heard people categorize opponents into three areas including external, internal, and intimate. The external opponents are easy to see. For Mr. Holland, we already discussed the principal and students but there were also others if you watch the movie and think about this a bit.

For example, what about the internal opponent that we all face? In the movie, we can see Mr. Holland conflicted about what to do just as we so often are with the choices we face in life. Mr. Holland wants to get his opus written and become a world-class composer, but he also wants to do right thing for the students that have been entrusted to him. And if that's not enough, the movie quickly shows us that there are two key intimate opponents. Mr. Holland and his wife are blessed with the birth of a son but it is quickly discovered that the son is deaf. Imagine being a musician where hearing is everything to you and now you are presented with a child that cannot hear. Mr. Holland and his wife now have a son that is going to require a great deal of additional time to raise. I suppose you could say that this is how the plot thickens as Mr. Holland has to deal with some pretty challenging intimate family relationships which can be seen as opponents to Mr. Holland's desire or goal.

Can you identify with the idea of external, internal, and intimate opponents in your life? It's not unusual that the biggest part of a movie, or the story of your life, to get caught up in the drama of dealing with opponents. In fact, as the opponents become more and more clear, we could say that the next phase of the story is rather obvious and is often simply called "The Battle." Rarely do opponents just cave in without a conflict. And it's often this struggle with opponents that glues us to a story. There might now be a chase scene or a toe-to-toe fight between the good guy and the bad guy that is almost cliche in movies, but there has to be some form of what might be called conflict resolution. In other words, how is this story going to turn out? What's going to happen? Is Mr. Holland going to write his opus? How is he going to deal with the challenges with his wife and the fact that he now has a deaf son that needs special care? And how might Mr. Holland's story of overcoming challenges relate to you? How are you going to overcome your problems and deal with your opponents?

I find that most people get stuck in the battle phase of their own personal stories. Isn't that true? Talk with someone about their life and see what they talk about? More often than not, it's the challenges. Of course, there's nothing in and of itself that is bad about that unless you get stuck in your battle. But at some point, you have to do what all great movies do, move beyond the battle. Although let's face it, battle scenes can make a movie! But what's next? Don't things need to get resolved?

So how are things going to get resolved? It wasn't easy for Mr. Holland. He had to learn to deal with his external opponents by making decisions about what was most important and setting new priorities. But, of course, this required battling himself from the standpoint of what to do about writing that opus that he thought was so important. And his wife wasn't going to allow him to avoid his son or not develop the kind of relationship that he was capable of having even though his son was deaf. None of this was easy but watching him deal with all of this makes the story really come alive.

My apologies in advance for giving away the ending to the movie but I just can't help myself. At the end of Mr. Holland's career as a music teacher, he finds himself looking back on what he's accomplished, or as he sees it, not accomplished with a sense of failure. The one thing that he set out to do — i.e., becoming a world-class composer — hasn't happened. And what's worse, the music program is now in jeapardy of being cancelled because of a lack of funding. As Mr. Holland clears out his desk with his wife and son accompanying him, he hears something going on in the auditorium of the school. Of course, his wife and son know exactly what is going on. As Mr. Holland gets to the auditorium and opens the door, he sees it's filled with previous and present students. Hundreds of people that have been touched by him and his gifts as a music teacher, and they are there to thank him for his life's work.

Interestingly, an early clarinet student who was just one of the many students touched by Mr. Holland's unique gifts as a teacher, had become Governor of the State, and she was now serving as the master of ceremonies for this special surprise event. During her speech, she says something that brings what we'll call "The Resolution" clearly into focus. She says these words:

"Mr. Holland had a profound influence on my life and on a lot of lives I know. But I have a feeling that he considers a great part of his own life misspent. Rumor had it he was always working on this symphony of his. And this was going to make him famous, rich, probably both. But Mr. Holland isn't rich and he isn't famous, at least not outside of our little town. So it might be easy for him to think himself a failure. But he would be wrong, because I think that he's achieved a success far beyond riches and fame. Look around you. There is not a life in this room that you have not touched, and each of us is a better person because of you. We are your symphony Mr. Holland. We are the melodies and the notes of your opus. We are the music of your life."

Mr. Holland breaks down in tears as this point and finally understands what his life has been about up to that point. He has clarity. He understands something he didn't udnerstand before. He has resolution which opens things up for the final part of any great story or movie, "The Celebration." In this case, Mr. Holland gets to hear what he has composed being performed by his students. There is much more to the movie than I've outlined here, but you probably get the idea. Mr. Holland is not a failure, he has discovered a greater success than he would have ever imagined for himself through the lives he has touched. He never realized until this moment that he had such an amazing teaching gift, and he certainly never realized the extent to which that gift had reached out into the world and really touched me people so deeply and profoundly.

And this brings us back to you. What about your life and your story? Where are you in the process of your story? Are you stuck dealing with an opponent? Have you been spending too many years in a battle? Are you learning that maybe the desire you started out with isn't the best one for you and there is something much better?

More importantly, how do you want your story to end?

Or how about this? Nowhere is it written that you can have only one story. Maybe the present story you are living needs "The Resolution" and "The Celebration" so you can create a new story. As the credits rolled for Mr. Holland's Opus, I found myself thinking that instead of retiring, Mr. Holland had plenty of time to become a composer if he still wanted to pursue that dream. But I also found myself thinking that sometimes what we get is better for us than what we might have wanted in the first place. Life is interesting that way. Sometimes we don't get what we want but we get what we need.

Maybe a fresh look at your life and the story you are living could give you a new perspective. How about viewing your life as a story and seeing where that leads you. Just take the 7 elements we've discussed and apply them to your life thus far.

THE DESIRE
Is what you have been chasing really want you want? Is "The Desire" the right one for you?

THE PROBLEM
Are the problems you are facing really that bad or are they serving you in some way? Is "The Problem" holding you back or getting you to grow?

THE PLAN
Is your plan producing good results or do you need a different approach? Does "The Plan" appear to be working or is it time to consider another strategy?

THE OPPONENTS
What about those people that you view as opponents? Are "The Opponents" maybe your greatest gift because they are forcing you to grow?

THE BATTLE
Are you stuck in a battle that maybe it's time to resolve? Is it time to realize that you can end "The Battle" at any time that you wish?

THE RESOLUTION
And finally, what lesson is life trying to teach you? Often all you need to resolve a situation is a new level of understanding which can come at any time. "The Resolution" just needs you to recognize the lesson so you can move on to that last element.

THE CELEBRATION
Whatever you do, don't forget "The Celebration." It's like the icing on the cake. But do me a favor. No matter where you are in your current story, remember that you don't have to wait until the end of it to have a party. Make your whole life a celebration. I think you'll find it's more fun that way.

One of my passions in life is boating. I live on a beautiful lake that is directly connected to Lake Michigan and my office looks out on the water. My home was built in 1937 by one of the leading businessmen in the area, and it’s an example of some of the finest craftsmanship from that era.

I recently purchased a new boat and installed a high tech boatlift to make my boating even more enjoyable. Since my office overlooks the lake and the boat, I opted for a remote controlled boatlift that allows me to lower my boat into the water from my office when it's time for a cruise. I simply press the button and by the time I walk to the boat everything is ready for cruising.

The person who installed the boatlift asked me how I was able to create such a perfect setup for myself. He told me that my home was one of the nicest estates he has ever seen, and he reminded me that I am on the international waterway. He said: “You can literally go anywhere in the world by boat from your backyard.”

I decided to invite my boatlift installer friend for a ride on the boat so I'd have a chance to get to know him better. As we cruised through the channel to Lake Michigan, I asked him about his goals in life. While he clearly had some vague notions of things he wanted to do, he had no real “Clarity of Intent” as I like to call it. He was obviously a very talented individual but it was apparent that he wasn’t fully engaging all of his talents and abilities.

I decided to use the boat and its electronics to get him to think about how he might develop some real plans for his life.

Any serious boater will have a few pieces of critical equipment on his boat. One of the most important pieces of equipment is a GPS or Global Positioning System. Many people now have this in their cars as well. Personally, I wouldn’t own a car without one because I’m willing to admit that I don’t have the greatest sense of direction.

The wonderful thing about a GPS is that it will tell you where you are on the planet. You just look on the screen and you see a picture of where you are in relation to everything else.

This got my new friend and me talking about where he was in his life and how he got there. On a good GPS, there is something that is often called “Tracks” which show the trail that has brought you to your present point. In my life, I use a journal to provide my “Tracks.” I believe that if life is worth living then it’s also worth recording. And by reviewing your “Tracks” you can learn a lot about yourself as well as life in general. My new friend shared all sorts of “Tracks” that had made up his life so far.

Another great feature on a good GPS is something called “Waypoints” which are like targets or destinations that you want to reach. I think of these like goals and subgoals. In my life, I use LifeOrganizer (Click Here for a FREE Demo of LifeOrganizer) to develop my goals and subgoals. It’s a wonderful tool that allows me to make detailed plans for the future. Of course, you don’t need anything very complicated when it comes to establishing goals, just a blank sheet of paper and a pencil along with some time to think about what you want are all that’s needed. However, it’s great to have excellent systems such as LifeOrganizer to make goal setting a serious and ongoing priority. My friend was so sincere about his desire to establish some new “Waypoints” that I decided to set him up with LifeOrganizer to put his plan together.

Our conversation was going so well that I also decided to show my new friend my latest electronic piece of navigation equipment which is my autopilot. It’s certainly fun to steer your course to various waypoints and destinations while boating but sometimes it’s even more fun to let the boat steer itself. Once you’ve programmed in a “Waypoint” or perhaps a series of “Waypoints” which become a complete “Route,” you can literally let the boat steer itself.

I actually believe that this is what many people are doing in their lives — i.e., they have opted to use their autopilot. Unfortunately, for many people, they have never taken the time to chart in a course of where it is they really want to go. Instead, their autopilot system just has them pointed in the general direction that they have been traveling. If they like that direction, then life is good. But what if you want to improve your direction? You need to chart a new course.

Maybe now would be a good time to think about the “Waypoints” and the “Route” you have plugged into your autopilot system. If you are not heading where it is that you really want to go, it’s time to change your course. You received absolutely free at birth the most amazing autopilot system every designed. It’s called the human mind. The only challenge is that most people take it completely for granted.

I promise you that your mind has all the power you will ever need to take you where you want to go. All you have to do is use it properly by programming it with the “Waypoints” that you want to visit. Why not start on a new journey today by programming your mind with a “Route” that you really want to travel?

If you are not now living the life you most want to live, the chances are excellent that your autopilot system needs some attention. Why not take a minute and program in a new course? Feel free to try my programming system which I mentioned a moment ago. It’s called LifeOrganizer, and it may be just what you need to program in a new course for your life.

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Remember, all you have to do to change your life is change your mind! Why not make today the day that you turn your life around?

Every New Year many of us resolve to make changes in our lives, to set new and important goals. We're inspired by that annual turn of the calendar to wipe the slate clean and to write new scenarios for our lives. It's a logical time for new beginnings, new hopes, and new directions in our lives.

But if you've ever made New Year's resolutions — and I suspect you have — you know how difficult it is to keep them. We begin the month of January with our best intentions supported by genuine enthusiasm and optimism. Then what happens? Sometimes little by little, the will and momentum fades and pretty soon, we realize that our good intentions got lost along the way. That's when we say, "Oh well, there's always next year!"

Or at least that's what happens until we learn the secret to keeping those resolutions, the secret to achieving the goals we make. That secret, quite simply, is assuring that you have sound support for the lasting changes you want to make in your life. And that support is often available all around you: from your spouse, children, friends, co-workers, and anyone and everyone you know who has your best interests at heart. It's up to you to share your goals and enlist the support of those people who can help you.

But, of course, what's most important is what you do to support yourself. You may, for example, resolve to quit smoking, lose weight, get a promotion, or learn a new skill. Whatever your goal, systematically remind yourself of that goal, constantly, throughout every day. Honor that goal by never letting it out of your sight or mind and you will achieve it. Among all of your supporters, make sure that your voice is the loudest and the most enthusiastic, the one that never lets up. That's the key to successfully following through on resolutions-New Year's or otherwise.

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Well, to begin with, time, as we think about it, doesn't even really exist. We think of weeks and hours and minutes and seconds, but these are completely human inventions. Days and years can be scientifically measured, of course, but these concepts as they're familiar to us would mean nothing if we were on the surface of another planet. They're simply subjective.

Now, sure, all of these labels present a convenient way for us to function as a society, but they are really just lies we agree upon. There is no such thing as an hour. Nine o'clock in the morning does not exist. And yet, to give you an example of how powerful a hold this lie of time can have over us, more people have heart attacks at 9:00 on Monday mornings than at any other hour. Think about that. They'd rather die than go to a job they hate. How's that for processing time with an extraordinary psychology?

And examples of this abound. Traffic on the streets of our cities overflows twice a day in the hour before nine and the hour after five. Most of us eat lunch at noon and go to bed before midnight. But these are all arbitrary hours that have meaning only because we've assigned it to them. In the United States, we're used to working from nine to five, but if we all decided that we were going to take a nap in the middle of the day, that's what would become the norm. And in some areas of the world, that's exactly what happens.

Those of us who are concerned about using our time wisely — of balancing our myriad roles effectively and getting the most success from all of them — would do well to break out of these artificial constructs and create a personalized way of interacting with time and the things we would like to accomplish in it. That's what this artilce is about. But to do this, we first need to understand a little more about the nature of time itself and of how it progresses in the natural universe. If a week or an hour doesn't really exist, then what exactly is time? What's it made up of?

Well, as a physicist would tell you, time is the factor that distinguishes sequential events from simultaneous events. Time allows for progression, for cause and effect, but it's also the barrier that separates the present from the past and the future.

Time is not anything you can see. It's not a force that has a demonstrable effect on its own, like gravity. Gravity is actually a property of matter, but time is a property of space. We think of space as having three dimensions — which we popularly call "length," "width," and "height" — but it actually has at least one other dimension. The fourth dimension of space is time, which we could also call "duration." In fact, space and time are so closely linked that scientists often refer to them as parts of the same phenomenon. This is called space-time.

Now, I know this is getting to sound more like Physics 101 than a way of mastering your use of time! But believe me, it's all connected. What I want to make clear is that we're used to thinking of things as happening in space. The same amount of space could hold a house or a forest or an ocean or a landfill, just like the same amount of space could hold a BMW or a rusty old hatchback.

And I want you to start thinking of time in the same way. Space-time is nothing more than an arena for us to fill up as we choose. We can fill our own personal space-time with junk, or we can fill it with riches. The same area can bring us joy or regret, productivity or relaxation, pleasure or pain. Like so many other things, how we fill any amount of space and time comes down to simple decisions that we make every moment of our life. And that's one of the things this article is about — how we choose to fill our time, and whether that choice is made by an extraordinary psychology or by inertia or laziness or by a thousand other impulses that rob us of our precious treasure.

But it's also about the nature of time and how time relates to nature. And especially how people experience time, because we have such a unique relationship with it. Our bodies are "designed" to last a specific amount of time. Now, every day the scientific community is learning things that help extend that functioning by just a little longer, but we'll never be able to alter the fact that there is a beginning and an end to physical. And much of the time in between is determined by natural systems for which time plays an critical role. So many of our biological functions are "timed" … the activation of our pituitary glands that trigger puberty … our heartbeat and respiration … cell division and elimination … menstruation. These are part of timed cycles, like the cycles of the tides, of the seasons, of days and nights, and of the Earth's revolution around the sun. We may or may not be aware of them, but the cycles of our biology exist in balance with these natural cycles and others.

And think about other natural cycles that move without cease around us. All living creatures are affected by cycles … cycles like when wild animals reproduce. Think about insects like the cicada, which emerge from hibernation every seventeen years to mate. Or cycles of migration, like birds that fly south for the winter. In the wild, much of an animal's instincts are centered upon the passage of time.

But humans differ from every other life we know about because, even though we have cycles and instincts of our own, we have a conscious and active sense of passing time that goes beyond "hardwired" responses. Just the fact that we have arbitrarily determined and named intervals of time speaks much for our unique power for comprehending and harnessing it. This is really quite extraordinary, if you think about it! A cat might realize that it's hungry, but it doesn't understand why two hours must pass before its next meal. And because of this, it becomes a servant to the hunger, as it's a servant to all of its instincts.

Only we humans are different. Consider the story of a group of coal miners who were trapped underground by a cave-in. While they all survived the falling rocks, they were cut off from the surface and, even worse, from their air supply. Knowing that they only had a few hours before their air ran out, they prayed for rescue in that time, but it seemed hopeless.

Only one of the miners had a watch, and he used it to keep them alive beyond the time the air should have been exhausted. How was this possible? It isn't a riddle. Since he was the only one who "knew" how much time was really passing, he was able to convince the others that what felt like a passing hour, because of their isolation and panic, was really only a half hour. He was lying, of course, but it did the trick. The miners, convinced that only three hours had passed, were able to survive the six hours it took for the rescuers to dig to them, just as the air was running out. Only one man died … the man with the watch. Aware of the "impossibility" of survival, he didn't survive.

Now, this is an extreme and possibly apocryphal tale, but it does nicely illustrate two points. The first is one of my favorite philosophies, and I've seen it proven over and over again: that what you believe becomes your reality. The second is that it's possible for people to break the seemingly unassailable hold that time has over them. It's simply a matter of changing the way you think about it. That's all it takes to be the master of time, rather than one of its many, many slaves.

One of my life mentors recently emailed the following story to me. I think you'll find that it contains a lot of wisdom.

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A professor stood before his Philosophy 101 class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to filling the jar with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open spaces between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They again agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students agreed with an unanimous yes!

The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and proceeded to pour the entire contents in to the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," the professor said, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things — your faith, your family, your partner, your health, your children, your friends, your favorite passions — things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full."

"The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else — the small stuff! "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your Happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out dancing. Play another 18 holes. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal.

"Take care of the golf balls first — the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of beers!"

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There's a great deal of wisdom in this little story. It's so important to figure out what's most important in life. Most people major in minors throughout their entire life. Don't let that be you. Remind yourself often what's really worthy of your time and focus.

Growing up in Omaha, Nebraska, I learned early about the now legendary investor, Warren Buffett. I’m incredibly grateful for all of the wisdom he has shared over the years. In fact, each year I look forward with great anticipation to reading his annual report which always contains some of the best personal advice and business philosophy you will find anywhere. Warren Buffett is a remarkable human being who has made the most of his unique talents.

I just discovered a new series of videos on YouTube.com that you may enjoy. It’s a collection of interviews with Warren Buffett and CNBC’s Liz Clayman.

Enjoy!

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If you are not now making the progress you would like to make and are capable of making, here are the three most important things to begin thinking about.

1. Your Standards
2. Your Beliefs
3. Your Approach or Strategy

Without exception, if you haven't achieved something that you want or you feel like you are not making significant progress toward one of your goals, you never have to look farther away than this short list. Consider it the litmus test for determining what's missing in the quest for your goal.

First of all, how important is the goal to you? Is it a "should" or a "must" in terms of whether or not you want to make it real? If it's not a "must," there is no need to look any further. Life has a way of helping those individuals with goals that "must" be accomplished. Those individuals that think they "should" achieve a certain goal usually wind up frustrated and disillusioned. Those individuals with a goal that's a "must" will not settle for anything less than accomplishing the objective.

Second, what do you believe in terms of your ability to achieve the goal? Do you want to become financially independent but believe deep down that it really isn't possible for you? If your beliefs don't support your goal, you know exactly where the challenge lies. Examine your daily thoughts and you'll quickly discover what you really believe about the goal. Is it possible for you? Only you can decide!

Third, how are you going about achieving the goal? What is your approach and is your approach working? If you've tried and failed numerous times with a specific strategy, it may be time to employ a new strategy. Often, the only thing holding us back is our unwillingness to be flexible in our approach. Remember, there is always a way if you remain committed to finding it.

This list may seem rather simple but refer back to it the next time you find yourself short of your goal. I'd be willing to bet that what's standing in your way can be quickly discovered by reviewing this list.

Have you ever stopped to consider that a person's success or failure in life is predictable? This is one of those universal truths that is on my mind a great deal. In fact, considering how predictable life is always leads me to start thinking about those things that can be used to forecast success or failure.

I believe that just a handful of habits make all of the difference in how a person's life turns out. It's not the things that we do once in a while that make the biggest difference, it's those things that we do consistently that make all of the difference. These are the things that become our foundational habits in life and determine our direction and ultimate destiny.

Here are my top five:

1. Show up on time.
2. Do what you say you will do.
3. Finish what you start.
4. Say please and thank you.
5. Be real nice.

These commonsense success habits seem almost too simple to mention but yet we all know how well these habits work. People who consistently exhibit these habits are the people we want as friends and colleagues. People that consistently exhibit these habits just have a way of ending up on top. They achieve their goals and help others in the process.

It's true that we all probably learned about these habits when we were quite young. For some of us, these habits have become the key forces that shape our lives. For others, these habits have become a constant source of frustration because they stand as tollbooths to progress. If we don't pay the toll, we can't pass through.

I think about these habits every day. I constantly work on strengthening these habits in my life, and I find that the more I remember these fundamentals and practice them, the more successful I become.

Try them for yourself and see what you think.

My father-in-law recently shared something that was emailed to him. It's a philosophy of life that is claimed to be from Charles Schulz, the creator of the legendary "Peanuts" comic strip featuring the cartoon character Charlie Brown. Schulz, of course, drew much of his inspiration for Charlie Brown and the whole "Peanuts" gang from his own life.

Unfortunately, it's not clear exactly who wrote this piece or where it came from originally. The Charles M. Schulz Museum claims that Mr. Schulz is not the creator of this message. However, the museum does admit that the quote at the end of the piece is from the pen of Charles Schulz. Also, you'll notice that the name at the top of the piece is "Schultz" and the famed cartoonist spelled his name "Schulz" which you see following the final quote.

So while I'm not sure exactly where this message came from, I think it's worth reading.

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EMAIL MESSAGE …

Subject: Charles Schultz Philosophy

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the "Peanuts" comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions. Just read the e-mail straight through, and you'll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America Contest.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Easier?

The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones that care.

Pass this on to those people who have made a difference in your life.

"Don't worry about the world coming to an end today. It's already tomorrow in Australia."
(Charles Schulz)

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It would nice to know for sure who really wrote this piece. All I can say is that whoever did write it had a powerful philosophy of life. This short message reminds us what’s most important in life.