Have you ever thought about your life as a story? My quess is that you'll benefit greatly by thinking about the story of your life, and perhaps analyzing your performance thus far. By doing this, you'll probably be able to see for the first time what your life has really been about as well as where your life is heading. The truth of the matter is that all of us are actually writing, directing, and starring in our own story every day. We just don't tend to think of it that way. But here's an interesting question to consider: Would you enjoy going to the movies to see your story being acted out? Is it a good story that others would find interesting or, for that matter, would you find it interesting? Would you like how you are living your life if you were watching yourself on a movie screen?

One of my favorite pastimes is watching movies. I love a good movie. Nothing seems to have the power to carry me away like a great story brought to life on the big screen. But have you ever stopped to think that many of the stories we like the most are actually quite similiar in structure? In fact, you might be surprised to learn that most successful movies are based on stories that have only a few key elements. I've seen academic lists of 5 elements including Introduction, Rising Action, Climax, Falling Action, and Denouement from movie critics, and I also remember hearing someone use as many as 7 elements to analyze movies which I found more interesting because the elements used could more easily be connected with a person's life. For our purposes, I'm going to use a rough outline of those 7 elements I once heard discussed but I'm going to change the order a bit and relabel them in an effort to help you see how powerful this concept can be when it comes to living your best possible life.

Remember, your life really is a story, or series of stories. And maybe by detaching to see your life as a moviegoer would see it, you'll be able to see things you've never seen before. By viewing your life as a story, is it possible that you might discover how to make it better? How to get unstuck? How to solve your current problems? How to overcome whatever is that's standing between you and what it is you really want in life?

Most stories start with a person that has a desire or a wish or a goal that he or she wants to make real. We could simply label this element "The Desire."

Let's use the movie Mr. Holland's Opus to bring this whole concept to life. Richard Dreyfuss plays the leading role of Mr. Holland who is a man on a mission. He is a man who wants to write great music. He wants to be a world-class composer. But a story only begins with "The Desire". What makes a story start to take life and get us involved and engaged very quickly is the next element which we'll call "The Problem."

In the movie, Mr. Holland's Opus, we quickly see that Mr. Holland has a major problem which can simply be labeled the cares of life. He needs money so he can have the free time he wants to write his opus. He needs to figure out a way to make some money. We can probably all identify with that problem on many levels. So often we have a desire to do something but it costs money. If we don't have the money, we have a problem that needs to be solved.

But the movie also doesn't stop there. Part of what makes any story interesting is seeing how problems are going to be overcome and Mr. Holland doesn't disappoint us. He jumps right in to the next element of a story which we'll call "The Plan." Mr. Holland's plan is simple. He is going to teach music until he can finish his great opus or symphony and, in the process, become a world-renowned composer. It's an interesting desire with a plan to overcome his immediate problem. "The Desire" followed by "The Problem" with the introduction of "The Plan" that appears to have some merit. Isn't it also interesting that we could probably identify these same elements in our own life? What's your desire? What do you want to accomplish? What is your problem? What's holding you back or standing between you and your desire? And what is your plan? Do you have a strategy to work your way through the problem or problems facing you in life?

Of course, we know that there's always more to a great story than a desire, a problem, and a plan. If fact, if that's all there was to Mr. Holland's Opus, or any other movie we were watching, we'd probably be on the verge of being quite bored and getting ready to ask for our money back before we even finish our popcorn. But it's the next element of a great story that makes things really get interesting. Let's call this next part "The Opponents."

Great stories have many levels of opponents and this is certainly true in the movie Mr. Holland's Opus. And the job of the opponents is to do everything they can do to block "The Plan" and that's exactly what happens to Mr. Holland. While Mr. Holland is content to do the minimum requirements as a music teacher so he has plenty of free time to compose his opus, the principal of the school has another idea. She doesn't want Mr. Holland sneaking out early when there are students that need additional help. And we quickly see that Mr. Holland is confronted by a whole host of students that don't appear to have a lick of musical talent yet he is expected to teach them. Let's label all of these opponents, external opponents.

Getting back to your story, do you have any opponents? People that are holding you back? You might right now be making a list in your mind. What makes Mr. Holland's Opus so interesting is the fact that he doesn't just have one opponent but a number of opponents. I've heard people categorize opponents into three areas including external, internal, and intimate. The external opponents are easy to see. For Mr. Holland, we already discussed the principal and students but there were also others if you watch the movie and think about this a bit.

For example, what about the internal opponent that we all face? In the movie, we can see Mr. Holland conflicted about what to do just as we so often are with the choices we face in life. Mr. Holland wants to get his opus written and become a world-class composer, but he also wants to do right thing for the students that have been entrusted to him. And if that's not enough, the movie quickly shows us that there are two key intimate opponents. Mr. Holland and his wife are blessed with the birth of a son but it is quickly discovered that the son is deaf. Imagine being a musician where hearing is everything to you and now you are presented with a child that cannot hear. Mr. Holland and his wife now have a son that is going to require a great deal of additional time to raise. I suppose you could say that this is how the plot thickens as Mr. Holland has to deal with some pretty challenging intimate family relationships which can be seen as opponents to Mr. Holland's desire or goal.

Can you identify with the idea of external, internal, and intimate opponents in your life? It's not unusual that the biggest part of a movie, or the story of your life, to get caught up in the drama of dealing with opponents. In fact, as the opponents become more and more clear, we could say that the next phase of the story is rather obvious and is often simply called "The Battle." Rarely do opponents just cave in without a conflict. And it's often this struggle with opponents that glues us to a story. There might now be a chase scene or a toe-to-toe fight between the good guy and the bad guy that is almost cliche in movies, but there has to be some form of what might be called conflict resolution. In other words, how is this story going to turn out? What's going to happen? Is Mr. Holland going to write his opus? How is he going to deal with the challenges with his wife and the fact that he now has a deaf son that needs special care? And how might Mr. Holland's story of overcoming challenges relate to you? How are you going to overcome your problems and deal with your opponents?

I find that most people get stuck in the battle phase of their own personal stories. Isn't that true? Talk with someone about their life and see what they talk about? More often than not, it's the challenges. Of course, there's nothing in and of itself that is bad about that unless you get stuck in your battle. But at some point, you have to do what all great movies do, move beyond the battle. Although let's face it, battle scenes can make a movie! But what's next? Don't things need to get resolved?

So how are things going to get resolved? It wasn't easy for Mr. Holland. He had to learn to deal with his external opponents by making decisions about what was most important and setting new priorities. But, of course, this required battling himself from the standpoint of what to do about writing that opus that he thought was so important. And his wife wasn't going to allow him to avoid his son or not develop the kind of relationship that he was capable of having even though his son was deaf. None of this was easy but watching him deal with all of this makes the story really come alive.

My apologies in advance for giving away the ending to the movie but I just can't help myself. At the end of Mr. Holland's career as a music teacher, he finds himself looking back on what he's accomplished, or as he sees it, not accomplished with a sense of failure. The one thing that he set out to do — i.e., becoming a world-class composer — hasn't happened. And what's worse, the music program is now in jeapardy of being cancelled because of a lack of funding. As Mr. Holland clears out his desk with his wife and son accompanying him, he hears something going on in the auditorium of the school. Of course, his wife and son know exactly what is going on. As Mr. Holland gets to the auditorium and opens the door, he sees it's filled with previous and present students. Hundreds of people that have been touched by him and his gifts as a music teacher, and they are there to thank him for his life's work.

Interestingly, an early clarinet student who was just one of the many students touched by Mr. Holland's unique gifts as a teacher, had become Governor of the State, and she was now serving as the master of ceremonies for this special surprise event. During her speech, she says something that brings what we'll call "The Resolution" clearly into focus. She says these words:

"Mr. Holland had a profound influence on my life and on a lot of lives I know. But I have a feeling that he considers a great part of his own life misspent. Rumor had it he was always working on this symphony of his. And this was going to make him famous, rich, probably both. But Mr. Holland isn't rich and he isn't famous, at least not outside of our little town. So it might be easy for him to think himself a failure. But he would be wrong, because I think that he's achieved a success far beyond riches and fame. Look around you. There is not a life in this room that you have not touched, and each of us is a better person because of you. We are your symphony Mr. Holland. We are the melodies and the notes of your opus. We are the music of your life."

Mr. Holland breaks down in tears as this point and finally understands what his life has been about up to that point. He has clarity. He understands something he didn't udnerstand before. He has resolution which opens things up for the final part of any great story or movie, "The Celebration." In this case, Mr. Holland gets to hear what he has composed being performed by his students. There is much more to the movie than I've outlined here, but you probably get the idea. Mr. Holland is not a failure, he has discovered a greater success than he would have ever imagined for himself through the lives he has touched. He never realized until this moment that he had such an amazing teaching gift, and he certainly never realized the extent to which that gift had reached out into the world and really touched me people so deeply and profoundly.

And this brings us back to you. What about your life and your story? Where are you in the process of your story? Are you stuck dealing with an opponent? Have you been spending too many years in a battle? Are you learning that maybe the desire you started out with isn't the best one for you and there is something much better?

More importantly, how do you want your story to end?

Or how about this? Nowhere is it written that you can have only one story. Maybe the present story you are living needs "The Resolution" and "The Celebration" so you can create a new story. As the credits rolled for Mr. Holland's Opus, I found myself thinking that instead of retiring, Mr. Holland had plenty of time to become a composer if he still wanted to pursue that dream. But I also found myself thinking that sometimes what we get is better for us than what we might have wanted in the first place. Life is interesting that way. Sometimes we don't get what we want but we get what we need.

Maybe a fresh look at your life and the story you are living could give you a new perspective. How about viewing your life as a story and seeing where that leads you. Just take the 7 elements we've discussed and apply them to your life thus far.

THE DESIRE
Is what you have been chasing really want you want? Is "The Desire" the right one for you?

THE PROBLEM
Are the problems you are facing really that bad or are they serving you in some way? Is "The Problem" holding you back or getting you to grow?

THE PLAN
Is your plan producing good results or do you need a different approach? Does "The Plan" appear to be working or is it time to consider another strategy?

THE OPPONENTS
What about those people that you view as opponents? Are "The Opponents" maybe your greatest gift because they are forcing you to grow?

THE BATTLE
Are you stuck in a battle that maybe it's time to resolve? Is it time to realize that you can end "The Battle" at any time that you wish?

THE RESOLUTION
And finally, what lesson is life trying to teach you? Often all you need to resolve a situation is a new level of understanding which can come at any time. "The Resolution" just needs you to recognize the lesson so you can move on to that last element.

THE CELEBRATION
Whatever you do, don't forget "The Celebration." It's like the icing on the cake. But do me a favor. No matter where you are in your current story, remember that you don't have to wait until the end of it to have a party. Make your whole life a celebration. I think you'll find it's more fun that way.

One of my passions in life is boating. I live on a beautiful lake that is directly connected to Lake Michigan and my office looks out on the water. My home was built in 1937 by one of the leading businessmen in the area, and it’s an example of some of the finest craftsmanship from that era.

I recently purchased a new boat and installed a high tech boatlift to make my boating even more enjoyable. Since my office overlooks the lake and the boat, I opted for a remote controlled boatlift that allows me to lower my boat into the water from my office when it's time for a cruise. I simply press the button and by the time I walk to the boat everything is ready for cruising.

The person who installed the boatlift asked me how I was able to create such a perfect setup for myself. He told me that my home was one of the nicest estates he has ever seen, and he reminded me that I am on the international waterway. He said: “You can literally go anywhere in the world by boat from your backyard.”

I decided to invite my boatlift installer friend for a ride on the boat so I'd have a chance to get to know him better. As we cruised through the channel to Lake Michigan, I asked him about his goals in life. While he clearly had some vague notions of things he wanted to do, he had no real “Clarity of Intent” as I like to call it. He was obviously a very talented individual but it was apparent that he wasn’t fully engaging all of his talents and abilities.

I decided to use the boat and its electronics to get him to think about how he might develop some real plans for his life.

Any serious boater will have a few pieces of critical equipment on his boat. One of the most important pieces of equipment is a GPS or Global Positioning System. Many people now have this in their cars as well. Personally, I wouldn’t own a car without one because I’m willing to admit that I don’t have the greatest sense of direction.

The wonderful thing about a GPS is that it will tell you where you are on the planet. You just look on the screen and you see a picture of where you are in relation to everything else.

This got my new friend and me talking about where he was in his life and how he got there. On a good GPS, there is something that is often called “Tracks” which show the trail that has brought you to your present point. In my life, I use a journal to provide my “Tracks.” I believe that if life is worth living then it’s also worth recording. And by reviewing your “Tracks” you can learn a lot about yourself as well as life in general. My new friend shared all sorts of “Tracks” that had made up his life so far.

Another great feature on a good GPS is something called “Waypoints” which are like targets or destinations that you want to reach. I think of these like goals and subgoals. In my life, I use LifeOrganizer (Click Here for a FREE Demo of LifeOrganizer) to develop my goals and subgoals. It’s a wonderful tool that allows me to make detailed plans for the future. Of course, you don’t need anything very complicated when it comes to establishing goals, just a blank sheet of paper and a pencil along with some time to think about what you want are all that’s needed. However, it’s great to have excellent systems such as LifeOrganizer to make goal setting a serious and ongoing priority. My friend was so sincere about his desire to establish some new “Waypoints” that I decided to set him up with LifeOrganizer to put his plan together.

Our conversation was going so well that I also decided to show my new friend my latest electronic piece of navigation equipment which is my autopilot. It’s certainly fun to steer your course to various waypoints and destinations while boating but sometimes it’s even more fun to let the boat steer itself. Once you’ve programmed in a “Waypoint” or perhaps a series of “Waypoints” which become a complete “Route,” you can literally let the boat steer itself.

I actually believe that this is what many people are doing in their lives — i.e., they have opted to use their autopilot. Unfortunately, for many people, they have never taken the time to chart in a course of where it is they really want to go. Instead, their autopilot system just has them pointed in the general direction that they have been traveling. If they like that direction, then life is good. But what if you want to improve your direction? You need to chart a new course.

Maybe now would be a good time to think about the “Waypoints” and the “Route” you have plugged into your autopilot system. If you are not heading where it is that you really want to go, it’s time to change your course. You received absolutely free at birth the most amazing autopilot system every designed. It’s called the human mind. The only challenge is that most people take it completely for granted.

I promise you that your mind has all the power you will ever need to take you where you want to go. All you have to do is use it properly by programming it with the “Waypoints” that you want to visit. Why not start on a new journey today by programming your mind with a “Route” that you really want to travel?

If you are not now living the life you most want to live, the chances are excellent that your autopilot system needs some attention. Why not take a minute and program in a new course? Feel free to try my programming system which I mentioned a moment ago. It’s called LifeOrganizer, and it may be just what you need to program in a new course for your life.

Here is more detailed information about LifeOrganizer …

Click Here for a FREE Demo of LifeOrganizer

Remember, all you have to do to change your life is change your mind! Why not make today the day that you turn your life around?

Last year I did a special merger with Success.com and Success Magazine that I wrote about here:

Success.com Merges with Success Magazine

I am happy to report that my relationship with them has continued to grow and expand.

Here is a link to my latest article that will be published in the April 2009 edition of Success Magazine:

Top of Your Game: How to Be the Best

While you are at the Success Magazine site, check out some of my other articles that they have published.

Here is one entitled "Developing Everyday Leadership" which I think you will find useful:

Developing Everyday Leadership

And here is another entitled "Improving Your Most Important Relationship" which is based on a blog entry that I made here last year:

Improving Your Most Important Relationship in Life

While you are at the site, I'd love it if you would rate the articles. Of course, I expect nothing less than 5 stars!

:-)

Enjoy!

Have you thought much about the most important relationship in your life? Now I’m not talking about the relationship you have with your spouse or significant other or the relationship you have with anyone else that you might be thinking about right now. I’m actually talking about the relationship you have with yourself. It’s easy to overlook the fact the relationship we have with ourselves is the most important relationship in life. Let’s face it, if we can’t get along well with ourselves, we have a pretty big challenge on our hands.

Now I know at the onset of this article that there are those that will take issue with my position that the relationship we have with ourselves is the most important relationship in life. But if you’ll stay with me for a moment, I think I’ll be able to convince you that the starting point for having a great relationship with anyone else, is mastering the relationship you have with yourself. In addition, if you aren’t now making the progress in life that you would like to make and are capable of making, I’d be willing to bet that what we are going to discuss will show you why. So let’s talk about your relationship with you.

I believe that the first step in managing your relationship with yourself is to determine what you actually think about yourself. You might be surprised with what you discover. I’ve learned that all too often we reserve our harshest criticism and our most negative thoughts for ourselves. And it’s just these thoughts that so often stand in the way of us achieving those things we most want in life.

You’ve undoubtedly heard the statement that “Our thoughts control our lives” which is covered extensively in the world’s great success literature. But let me ask you this: “What do you think about yourself?” In other words, “What are the thoughts you are having about yourself that are controlling your life?”

In my seminars and private coaching sessions, I like to ask people where their thoughts come from. This is always a fascinating discussion. People will say that their thoughts come from their parents and the way they were raised along with influences from all of the experiences they have had in life. Certainly, all of these things and many more are part of the answer. However, I think there is something much more significant that is often completely missed.

I believe that our thoughts ultimately come from the questions that we ask ourselves on a daily basis. In fact, I like to go so far as to say that every thought we think is preceded by a question. Think about this for a minute and I bet you’ll agree with me.

We are constantly asking questions like “What should I do in this situation?” which leads to thoughts about what to do. The question “How will this affect the outcome that I am working to achieve?” will stimulate a whole series of thoughts and ideas and possible scenarios to consider. Even questions such as “Is this the right thing to do?” will lead to all kinds of thoughts about good and bad and/or right and wrong. Truly, the questions we ask and the thoughts they lead to are endless.

But here’s something that’s not always obvious. Questions can become very deep seated and begin generating thoughts that don’t really serve us … thoughts that aren’t good for us. And since we are around ourselves all of the time, these questions are controlling our thoughts so we need to know what they are. Otherwise, we can continue asking these disempowering questions for months, years, decades, or even our entire life unless we learn how to step behind the curtain and take control.

Imagine having to be around someone who is constantly bugging you or irritating you. For all too many people, that describes the relationship they have with themselves!

Let me give you an example of how one question could be in conflict with the relationship you have with yourself, and how it could derail you on your quest for greater success.

I’ve discovered that many people have big generalized questions like this one: “What are they thinking of me?” Imagine having that question constantly roaming around in your mind. One client told me that she’s had this question since she was a little girl, and although this client has achieved some great things in her life, she still hasn’t found peace, happiness, or any level of fulfillment. She said that she feels like no matter what she does, it doesn’t feel like enough. Isn’t that interesting? Here is a lady who is a Fortune 500 executive, earning an amazing amount of money, receiving constant praise for her work, and yet she feels like no matter what she does it isn’t enough. She’s making a great contribution to others by serving on a very high level but she is not happy on the inside. This reminds me of the old saying that “Success without fulfillment is failure.”

I think the answer to her challenge can be found in this main question that she’s been asking herself for years. Many questions have a presupposition and wouldn’t you say that her question (“What are they thinking of me?”) contains within it the idea that people may not be thinking good things about her?

Of course, the fact of the matter is that we can never really know what other people are thinking about us. Sure, you could ask someone to tell you what he or she is thinking but you might not get the truth.

The ultimate problem with this question, however, is that it puts other people in the driver’s seat of your life. While a question like this might motivate you to get other people to think good things about you, you will never know for sure what other people think. And, most importantly, do you really want to base your life of what other people think of you?

Now I realize that this example may not illustrate your question or situation, but I hope it gets you thinking about what your question or questions might be. What is it that you are asking yourself underneath all of the stuff that is going on in your life? If you want to find out, do what I call a “Mental Download” and start writing down the thoughts that cross your mind. You’ll be amazed by what you discover. Just as a computer program can have bugs that prevent it from operating correctly, you may have a few thoughts in your mental computer that are getting in the way of your success.

In the past few weeks, here are some questions that clients have shared with me: Am I smart enough to do this? What if I try and fail? Why can’t I accomplish my goal? Why is it easier for other people? How can I protect myself if things go bad? Why can’t I lose the weight I want to lose?

How about starting to examine your thoughts and figure out what questions are whirring around in your consciousness? One of the things I most enjoy doing is helping people discover their questions and corresponding thoughts. In fact, I’ve learned over the years that for most people, there is one main question that is having an enormous influence on every aspect of their life. I can promise you that discovering your main question will transform every aspect of your life. It will allow you to have a better relationship with yourself and everyone else in your life. And achieving your goals will be easier than ever before.

I’ve seen people transformed immediately once they discovered the underlying questions and corresponding thoughts that are controlling their life, especially the main question that they may have been trying to answer for decades. You may find that you can figure out your main question by yourself by completely a “Mental Download” or you might want to consider working with a coach that understands this process. The truth of the matter is that we are often too close to ourselves to see and understand exactly what’s going on.

There’s a great line in the play by Shakespeare entitled “The Life and Death of Julies Caeser” where the character Cassius asks Brutus if he can see his own face. Brutus replies: “No, Cassisus; for the eye sees not itself, but by reflection, by some other means.”

We can’t really see ourselves and so often a question that you’ve been asking since you were a child is standing in the way of you achieving a great relationship with yourself, and it’s standing in the way of you achieving your ultimate ideal in life. I believe there is nothing more important than uncovering the questions and thoughts that are controlling your life so you can once and for all take control of your destiny.

Lastly, remember the simple fact that all progress in life begins by asking a better question. Maybe now is the time to examine your thoughts on deep level so you can transform the questions you have, the thoughts you think, and the life you live.

You are probably aware by now that I recently struck a deal to merge the domain name "success.com" with Success Magazine. I can't tell you how thrilled I am with this deal.

Success Magazine was originally founded way back in 1891 by Orison Swett Marden. It has been led over the years by such renowned authors as Napoleon Hill, W. Clement Stone, and Og Mandino. As a part of this transition, I have taken a stake in the future of Success Magazine, and I am going to begin working with them and contributing many articles and features. I am hoping to help make the magazine even more successful in its second 100 years of publication.

My personal mission in life has always been to help others experience more success in every area of their lives, and this new merger will allow me to amplify my efforts.

As far as everything on the website is concerned, nothing changes except the domain name. The new domain name is "success.bz." So starting immediately, the old Success.com will become the new Success.bz.

Everyone knows .com but very few have heard about .bz.

So what's the difference? Nothing really.

If you've never heard of .bz, you should know that it is another top level domain exactly like .com. It works the very same way. If fact, there are literally hundreds of top level domains, or TLD's as they are known — i.e., .net, .org, .edu, .tv, .us, etc. It's interesting that .com has become the most popular; however, who knows what will happen over time as the Internet is still in its infancy.

I've heard more and more people talk about the fact that you can't find any more good "dot coms" because they are all taken. And as so often happens when people start to think that something is scarce, the price begins to escalate. People have paid some amazing sums just to have a "dot com" of their choice. In fact, I've had many people call me to ask if I accepted an outrageous sum for "success.com" from Success Magazine; however, my agreement with Success Magazine prevents me from disclosing any particulars. I can say that I believe it was a win-win deal, and I'm looking forward to working with Success Magazine as they re-launch the publication. In fact, as I mentioned, I'll be writing many new articles and columns for the magazine.

I just want you to know that I'm not going anywhere as far as this site is concerned, and I'm as committed as ever to helping you achieve your goals. So rest assured that it's business as usual with everything that currently exists on the website, and the many new features we have planned for the future.

At this point, all you need to do is change your bookmarks to now point to Success.bz and get ready for more exciting announcements because we have a long list of exciting developments that are going to help you to accelerate your progress in 2008 and beyond.

Thanksgiving is the time when most everyone focuses their thoughts, if for some only briefly, on what they have to be thankful for in life. Certainly, daily thanksgiving would be a better strategy than waiting for a yearly holiday; nevertheless, Thanksgiving is a great time to remind ourselves about what’s most important in life and think about the many blessings that have come our way.

I came across something very interesting recently that I thought I would share on this Thanksgiving Day. It was written by Kent M. Keith back in 1968 when he was only 19 years old. Amazingly, this short piece has traveled around the world and even ended up on the wall of people such as Mother Teresa. It’s called "The Paradoxical Commandments." I hope you enjoy it!

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THE PARADOXICAL COMMANDMENTS
by Keith M. Kent

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

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If you would like to learn more about Kent Keith or the history behind "The Paradoxical Commandments," here is a link to his website:

Click here to visit "The Paradoxical Commandments" website

I like to think about these kinds of paradoxes, especially as they relate to Thanksgiving. Sometimes giving thanks for what we have is difficult because things are not exactly the way we would like for them to be or not the way we planned for them to be. Maybe it would be good to add another line to "The Paradoxical Commandments" on this Thanksgiving Day:

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If you work hard to achieve your goals and maintain an attitude of thanksgiving, you may still fall short of your expectations.
Work hard and be thankful anyway.

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I like adding this last statement, especially on Thanksgiving. Besides, you may be short of your expectations now, but who knows what opportunity is going to present itself right around the next corner!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Here are some interesting ideas about happiness from the website Mercola.com:

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"Harvard psychologist Dan Gilbert says that you ‘synthesize’ your happiness. That you have a ‘psychological immune system’ that helps you change your views about your world, in order to feel better about the world in which you find yourself."

"Not only that, he also maintains that when we imagine what could make us happy, such as new clothes or winning the lottery our brains are invariably wrong in advising us that those things will make us happy. In fact, statistics show that paraplegics are just as happy as lottery winners one year after the event of either becoming injured, or winning the lottery!"

"We tend to think that getting things such as a job, a new car, or a trip around the world is what will make us happy. However, studies have shown that we make ourselves happy by simply imagining that we are happy. So getting what we want doesn’t actually have anything to do with being happy."

"Why is this?"

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Read the full explanation and see a very interesting clip at Mercola.com:
Read the entire story and watch a clip of Dan Gilbert at Mercola.com

You can also view this TED Talks clip of Dan Gilbert at YouTube.com:
Watch the clip at YouTube.com

More than two thousand years ago, Hippocrates, the Greek physician and father of medicine, said, "A wise [person] ought to realize that health is [the] most valuable possession."

We are obliged to Hippocrates' and others from the past for reminding us that fitness and health is not just a new and passing phenomenon and neither are the ways to achieve and maintain good health. The fundamentals of good health, known and proven for so long, are available to anyone who decides they want to fully enjoy the enormous benefits of healthy living.

I found the reality of this lesson brought home in the compelling story from over a century ago of an American boy, sickly and weakened by childhood diseases, who sought a refuge from his physical handicaps in a love of books and reading. As time went on, just as his mind grew strong from his studies, his body continued to fail.

His concerned father at last told his 12-year old son, "You have the mind but not the body, and without the help of the body the mind cannot go as far as it should. You must make your body know you will do it!" And the wise father then gave the boy weights and other gymnastic equipment and worked with him to strengthen his frail young body.

Well, this story has a remarkably happy ending. The boy heeded his father's encouragement, and not only worked hard to rebuild his health, but became a superior athlete, graduated from Harvard University and went on to lead a vigorously active life of eminent achievement. This once-sickly boy eventually became the 26th president of the United States. He was Theodore Roosevelt, who at age 42, was and is the youngest man ever to become president.

Throughout his life, Roosevelt practiced what he called, "the strenuous life." His energetic commitment to physical activities included boxing, horseback riding, swimming and hiking among others. Teddy Roosevelt discovered that an important foundation for good health is movement and activity. He demonstrated that our bodies are designed to get stronger as they are constantly used and challenged with purposeful physical activities.

Teddy Roosevelt, incidentally, was a great outdoorsman and probably knew more about natural science than any other President who has ever been in office, and some of his most notable achievements were in the area of conservation. He added about 150 million acres to the national forests, set up five new national parks, created the first 51 federal bird reservations and established the first four national game preserves. He loved nature and worked to preserve the environment for future generations.

Roosevelt undoubtedly agreed with Emerson's view that, "The first wealth is health." And with the old proverb that takes Emerson's idea one step further by saying, "Health is better than wealth."

Because Teddy Roosevelt's life dramatically exemplifies the life-changing power of achieving and maintaining good health. The simple moral to his story is that nothing is more essential to building a successful life than good health.

As Teddy Roosevelt showed us, the secrets to good health are not complicated. They are known and waiting for you to discover them and, most important, to put them into practice. The blessings and joys of good health and fitness can be yours when you choose to make them priorities in your life.

Good health, you know, means having the capacity to live life fully and being able to experience the best that life has to offer. It means having vigor and energy. It is having the ability to pursue your dreams with the confidence that you will be able to accomplish them.

It's doubtful that Teddy Roosevelt would have accomplished much in his life had it not been for the words of advice from his father about developing his body in addition to his mind. It's worth thinking about, especially these days when so many of us live sedentary existences. We can only go where our bodies can take us, and our bodies need exercise to stay healthy and strong. So remember: build both your body and your mind. They're a powerful combination. Teddy Roosevelt proved it.

I remember one of my early mentors telling me that if I wanted to be financial independent, I needed to start spending the majority of my time with people who were already financial independent. I'm sad to say that this mentor was the only person in my life at that time who qualified as financially independent. But I took his words to heart and started to develop associations and friendships with people who had the means to live the kind of lifestyle that I wanted for myself. And it was these associations along with this early mentor that made my goal of financial independence a reality.

So associating with the right people really does make a difference and not just to your net worth. Have you ever noticed how people who are drowning in problems are surrounded by others in the same situation? People naturally become molded by the people they are around. It's just a natural human tendency to become a part of our environment. So the bottomline is that we need to choose our environment very carefully.

And while it's sometimes difficult to free yourself from a bad situation, it's always possible. You just need the desire mixed with some dogged determination. In fact, what can make it so hard to climb out of a bad situation is the people who unknowingly want to hold you back. Since they are fearful of anything different than what they know, they want to protect you by keeping you exactly where you are.

I like to call this the "crabs in a bucket" phenomena. When you have a bucket full of crabs, all of the crabs are reasonably happy until one of them decides to try and climb out of the bucket. The other crabs become quite angry and do everything they can to pull that climbing crab right back to the bottom.

So don't let other peoples' fears hold you back. Once you've decided on a goal, pursue it with everything you've got.

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